The Ongoing Conflict of Over Sharing Your Life Online
If you’re a regular reader of my articles then you know the drill, if not, then I basically talk about different aspects of my life sexual or not and publish it for thousands to read. For some people that is a gigantic no, they couldn’t imagine anything worse than their dirty laundry out of display for everyone to poke fun at.
I however, first and foremost find it therapeutic to physically write something down to get it out of my head. Secondly, sharing it online gives it a sense of validation, that it can be acknowledged by others and feedback I’ve had affirms this. Yet, I do feel like I have this battle between sharing my life and throwing together advice for public viewing, and maybe exposing too much. For example, there’s an article I want to write, the context behind it isn’t fully developed but there’s a possibility it could do. But I also know that I can’t actually publish it for a good couple of months, why you ask, because it could potentially drag somebody into shit. Even very vaguely discussing it right now, I feel a sense of paranoia that I’m somewhat putting this person on the chopping board, which I’m not but do you see my dilemma here.
The very stereotypical ‘sharing is caring’ line is very true on my blog, and I know for a fact some people wouldn’t be in the position they are today, if it wasn’t for reading one or two of my articles. Those people, in private have told me how my experiences and forms of coping, has helped them understand their problems and safety remove themselves from it. I’ll passively throw out comments saying how stressed I am in my day to day life, but in reality it actually takes quite a lot of pressure to throw me overboard. Of course these articles only highlight the difficult or highly sexualised elements of my life, but I’m pretty level headed for the most part and with that I take how I present myself to others, character wise very seriously.
I’m also a very proud person, I think I’ve mentioned this in articles before, but I’m not afraid to say ‘look at this really cool thing I achieved’ and neither should anybody else. I take a lot of photos all the time, I’m that annoying person who will Snapchat everything, but then again who isn’t nosey enough to not look at what is right in front of them?
Writing the articles I do has thrown me pretty close to the sun. One article is particular, which I won’t mention, caused such a reaction that I later found out I became the talking point of mutual friends group chat. Keeping people and situations anonymous as possible has caused others to speculate who is involved and I’ve had people confront me about what I’ve wrote, thinking it was about them. Well if the shoe fits eh? There is also an ongoing joke that when something happens or I’m screwed over that I’m gonna write an article about that scenario and 80% of the time I actually do. There was a brilliant quote mentioned on an old episode of Mock The Week in regards to an affair becoming public between an MP and a journalist. If you’re gonna cheat on a partner as a public figure, the worst person to do it with is a journalist. This rings true to myself, a lot of people I’ve become involved with know my website and the articles I write and just the general demeanour with these topics. And yet it becomes a shock if I’ve gone and wrote something about them or the situation between us. I follow the code of practice and keep specifics hidden to protect identities and not to tarnish their credibility but somebody is bound to know who it is.
My brutal honesty has resulted in a lot of respect from people, mainly women.
The industry I’m going into is media, more specifically broadcast journalism. It’s what I’m currently studying, but I don’t actually know which element of that world I want to throw myself into. Writing opinion pieces like these are self fulfilling and help shut up the little narcissistic in me for a while, but it begs the question would my brutal honestly affect a serious career move? We all know how future employers will essentially Google you, check your tweets, Facebook posts and sometimes you won’t even be considered for an interview if you’ve got some sloppy drunk photos public. But where does the line appear with creativity and the media industry. Journalists are people who are nosey, there’s no doubt about it. In order to get a good story you’ve got to have certain attributes that allow you to attain exclusive information.
A series that I’m in the process of taking notes for on my blog, is my journey coming off the contraceptive pill. This is a very personal journey that I’m broadcasting to anybody really, and sooner enough my next update with be VERY detailed. But again, where is the line? When is it too much, when you write lifestyle posts and opinion pieces. I’ll never stop writing what I do because like I mentioned previously, it gives what I do and my opinions a sense of purpose. This topic in general is something that I’d like to delve into more specifically in future posts. What one person would argue is standard could be extremely TMI for somebody else and I’m assuming this attitude is also the approach taken by companies and employers.
I don’t really have an ending to this article, because it is an ongoing conflict so it wouldn’t be very ongoing if I had a solution would it. This topic is definitely something that I do want to explore further, so chances are a few more articles will pop up around the theme of publishing personal information online.